A better understanding of the stages of grief can help.

Denial: This is a natural first reaction to the news that your pet has died or may die soon. You simply don’t want to believe it.

Bargaining: This is perhaps the shortest of all stages of grief. You may promise to spend more time with your ailing pet, to shower your pet with gifts, if only he will stay with you a little longer.

Anger: It evolves from the frustration that you are experiencing. Anger can turn inward and emerge as guilt.

Depression: Tumultuous emotions can become sorrowful expression. Most people feel
a lack of motivation and would like to withdraw from a busy, happy world. By taking a step back, you allow yourself time to heal and put your pet’s death in perspective.

Acceptance: This is the final stage of grief, which allows you to take a fresh look at yourself and the world around you. In time, the pain will lessen and memories will evoke joy instead of tears. When you are able to focus on the happy moments of your pet’s life and not on death, you are well on your way.

You can celebrate your pet’s life in so many ways.

• Record happy memories in a journal or a letter.
• Make a photo album or collage.
• Plan a memorial service.
• Volunteer to help animals.
• Make a memorial contribution to the Hawaiian Humane Society.